Think of these mini podcasts like voice memos reaching out to you from a friend through the isolation. Except better, because they include tools for growing intimacy between yourself and those you care about. Note: podcasts come out Monday and each week there is an assignment for you to practice! Be sure to tune in, engage the practice and leave me a note about what you learned! Each assignment will build on the previous week‘s podcast. Dr. Jessica Tartaro (she/her) is a cis-gendered, able bodied, second generation Sicilian Jewish Intimacy Coach & Connection Facilitator who brings to her teaching nearly 20 years of experience in the healing arts. Through her one-of-a-kind workshops and coaching, Jessica powerfully weaves together the influences of Authentic Relating, positive psychology, psycho-education, trauma-sensitivity, mindful embodiment and conscious intimacy. Plus, she loves to play. Former Fulbright scholar, Jessica has founded communities across the country dedicated to healing the collective experience of belonging through group resilience, emotional intelligence and body wisdom. On the Olympic Peninsula of Washington where she lives and loves, Jessica is exploring the integration of racial justice with conscious relating and embodiment. To stay current on her evolving offerings and inquire about her private coaching and public speaking, go to www.DrJessicaTartaro.com.
Monday Jun 28, 2021
Monday Jun 28, 2021
In this episode I explore the intersection of personal healing work and anti-racism, beginning with "decentering". I attempt to describe how decentering ourselves as white people can be a deeply healing practice to us and to the collective wound of racism.
00:50 Disclaimers for this episode: the intersection between personal healing work and anti-racism
1:38 A definition of decentering in interpersonal relationships
3:05 I teach my clients to decenter their wounded parts and center the most resourced parts of their psyche
3:33 What decentering whiteness means in anti-racist work.
4:58 The relationship between decentering psychologically and decentering whiteness
5:59 Here’s what's possible when we do the work
6:30 The willingness to step out of the spotlight will feel like an honor.
7:05 Validating defensiveness and following feelings to their origin point in our bodies and histories
7:16 Resmaa Menakem and My Grandmother’s Hands
7:58 My anti-racist activism has shown me the next level of work in my healing
8:42 We have the opportunity to help our fellow white activists to better understand our triggers around decentering
9:03 Sharing power is done by the psychologically centered and sound.
9:33 This week’s homework
Resources: The American Psychological Association (APA) definition of decentering. The NYT bestseller, My Grandmother’s Hands, by Resmaa Menakem. A short article by Menakem with an overview of the relationship between healing trauma and healing racism. White Fragility: Why It's So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism by Robin DiAngelo, a very helpful read to launch and deepen your anti-racist understanding.
Podcast produced by Sal DeRosalia
Music composed and performed by Aimee Mia Kelley